Perinatal Bereavement & Palliative Care
“The friend who can be silent with us in a moment of despair or confusion, who can stay with us in an hour of grief and bereavement, who can tolerate not knowing, not curing, not healing and face with us the reality of our powerlessness, that is the friend who cares...”
- Henri Nouwen, Out of Solitude
Are you required to talk?
You can say as much or as little as you want. Saying nothings is fine, too.
Can your partner attend with you?
Check with the support group provider. H.E.A.R.T.strings support groups are open to partners attending. You can also come with a friend or other family member for support.
Will the meeting provide comfort and reassurance, or will listening to the stories of others leave me more sad, angry, or anxious?
Most people find comfort and guidance by attending. For some, a group setting is not the right fit. H.E.A.R.T.strings also provides support in a peer-to-peer mentoring program.
The truth is, no one wants to be at a support group meeting. It’s like joining a club or a religion to which you never wanted to subscribe. Once you get there, you realize it’s a place of comfort, camaraderie, and understanding. There are silent nods in agreement, shared tears, and affirmation of feelings.
What are some reasons people fear or avoid grief support groups?
- - I didn’t want other people to see me cry.
- - I did not want to be reminded of my feelings because it hurt too much.
- - I thought I should be able to figure this out on my own.
- - My family will help me to get through this.
- - I will get over this eventually.
- - I am seeing a therapist.