For most grieving parents, it is vitally important to verbalize the pain, to talk about what happened, to ask questions, and puzzle aloud, sometimes over and over. Experts in bereavement care explain the importance of parents to express their emotions and feelings outwardly so that they will not turn inward and possibly become a destructive force in the future.
Ways to Remember
Grief is a process of remembering, of learning how to continue the bond while living without your baby in your arms. One of the ways you can remember your baby is by sharing your story. This can be done by attending support groups and remembrance events, journaling or blogging, finding those in your circles who are good listeners and companions to your journey. It can also mean writing to your baby, making donations in their memory, or lighting a candle for them on special occasions. |
What distinguishes grief in women who have suffered miscarriages - from other types of grief - is that there are no memories, there is no object to grieve, and other people are unaware of the woman's loss. |