H.E.A.R.T.strings
Perinatal Bereavement & Palliative Care
NORTHSIDE HOSPITAL
NORTHSIDE HOSPITAL
Some of these sentiments may be comforting to you think you would find them comforting if someone said them to you. But many parents report that these types of sentiments often do not provide comfort at this time.
"You’re young, you can have other babies."
Examples (that we don't recommend)
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References to GodMany parents would rather have their babies with them, so even Heaven, a perfect place with no pain and suffering, may not seem comforting at this time. This may be comforting for some parents, but many are struggling with their feelings towards God right now. |
What could the "reason" be?It's very hard to believe that there is a reason good enough for this to happen. Parents may go on to make meaning of the loss, but most would prefer to have their babies with them rather than "learn a lesson." Well-intended explanations do not ease the pain of the loss. It is hard to apply "reason" to such a tragedy. Knowing that something was wrong does NOT mean that parents love or miss their baby any less. |
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