The death of a baby during or after a pregnancy is devastating. Losing one or more babies from a set of multiples is indescribable, complicated, and often misunderstood. This section contains information for families experiencing these types of losses.
ANEW: A New Normal After Loss
This social and support group is for parents who have a surviving multiple(s) and are coping with the joys and challenges of creating a future without one (or more) of their multiples. Join us for friendship and dialogue as we navigate this unique path in parenthood. To join the private Facebook group, please call (404) 851-8177 for more information or email firstname.lastname@example.org.
Always my Twin (Samuels) This lavishly illustrated children's book explains the specialness of twins, the sadness everyone in the family may feel about the twin who dies, and positive, healthy ways that families may choose to remember the deceased twin. Space is provided for a surviving child to express their own feelings, construct their family tree, and indicate their special talents and interests.
Baby Nathan (Davis) A mother's story about one of her twins, Nathan, who was stillborn
Coming to Term: A Father's Story of Birth, Loss, and Survival (Woodwell) A poignant story of a couple's first pregnancy with twins, premature birth, early neonatal death of one twin and the long hospitalization of the survivor before homecoming. Told from the father's point of view, it chronicles facts, emotions, decisions and coping through the family's long ordeal. With death and mourning for Nina juxtaposed with worries for Josie, this book gives an honest, revealing look at one family's experienced with a mixed outcome from a multiple birth.
Embracing Laura (Wegner-Hay) Parents facing the difficult decision of selective reduction when one of their twins had almost no chance of survival due to lethal anomalies and the sick baby could affect the chance of survival of the healthy twin. Includes parent & sibling grief, support during pregnancy, delivery, after delivery, creating memories of lost twin.
Living Without Your Twin (Case) Adult twin reactions to loss from diverse causes (including intrauterine or childhood as well as adult loss or estrangement).
The Lone Twin (Woodward) Surveys adult bereaved twin reactions to loss from all causes, includes some accounts of positive or neutral reactions.
The Promised Twin (Youngberg) -- faith-based Written by a mother, member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, who lost one of her twins to SIDS. Recommended by LDS mothers who have lost a twin, and may be inspirational to others. Good account of the family's attempts to grieve and adjust to the death of a previously healthy twin, with the help of faith and friends.
The Special Brother (Kidder) Booklet for young children, from the viewpoint of a 3-year-old boy whose infant twin brother died at age 4 months after heart surgery. Photos include older brother holding the twins, twins together, parents, extended family, and a photo of surviving family members. Good for siblings at the time of loss, and may later help explain to a surviving twin. Author is grandmother of the twins.
William & Wendell: A Family Remembered (Fifield) Written by a twin whose twin sons died after premature birth in 1990. The sometimes intense yet compelling book explores grief for multiple losses (the sons' deaths followed other personal tragedies, including childhood abuse, family member's suicide, and father's death). Author criticizes traditional grief counseling that aims to help people "recover" from events that permanently change them. Well-written, insightful, honest, and fresh, this book may be particularly valuable for people who feel there is no way they can heal from profound tragedies and are looking for alternative suggestions on how to cope.
Twin Loss (Brandt) Dr. Brandt's observations, opinions, advice, and poetry interspersed with letters and comments from bereaved twins, this book covers a broad range of loss scenarios from pre-birth through adulthood, with advice on helping the bereaved twin and family through acute and later grief.